Aug 25, 2011 - Daily Devotional    No Comments

 Please read, print and wait til after tomorrows devotional to sign. This is on Codependency from “language of letting go” by Melodie Beatty
 

                                            Take responsibility for your life
Before you can jump out of the airplane, before you can fly solo in an airplane, before you can go on the whitewater rafting trip, before you can make a bungee jump, you have to sign a waiver.
The waiver is a document that says that you realize the dangers in what you’re about to do, that you and you alone have made the decision to participate in the activity, and that you and you alone are responsible for the outcome.
You sign away your right to sue, whine, and complain—to do anything except risk your life for a new experience.
You sign the waiver to protect others from being liable in case of an accident. I think waivers are a good reminder that ultimately no one is responsible for my life but me.  There is no one to blame, no one to sue, no one to ask for a refund.  I make my own decisions and I live with the results of those choices each day. 
So do you.
It’s your life.  Sign a waiver saying that you take responsibility for it.  Set yourself and others free.
 
God, help me understand the inherent powers I have.  Help me take responsibility for my choices, and guide me about what decisions are best for me.
 

WAIVER

I understand that during the course of my life I will be required to make many decisions, such as where I want to live, whom I want to live with, where I work, how much fun I have, and how I spend my money and time, including how much time I spend waiting for things to get better and people to change, and whom I choose to love.
I understand that many events that occur will be out of my hands and that there are inherent dangers and risks in all decisions I make.  Life and people have no obligation whatsoever to live up to my expectations; I have no obligation to live up to the expectations of anybody else.  Life is a high-risk sport, and I may become injured along the way.
I agree that all the decisions I make are mine and mine alone, including how I choose to handle the events that are beyond my control.  I hereby forfeit my right to recourse as a victim, including my rights to blame, complain, and whine or hold someone else responsible for the path I choose to take.  I am responsible for my participation—or lack of it—in life.  And I take complete responsibility for the outcomes and consequences of all decisions I make, understanding that ultimately it is my choice whether I become happy, joyous, and free or stay miserable and trapped.
Although people may voluntarily nurture and love me, I and I alone am responsible for taking care of and loving myself.
 
Signed:________________________________________
 
Date:__________________________________________
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Aug 24, 2011 - Daily Devotional    No Comments

Week 10 day 3- Ugly

 
 

Week 10 Day 3- Ugly

Ugly -likely to cause inconvenience or discomfort
-offensive or unpleasant to any sense

Sometimes it takes someone else being this way to you for you to realize how you might be treating someone else. There was an instance when I was treated this way by a man that I couldn’t believe the lack of compassion and immediately the Holy Spirit said this is how you have been treating your husband. Uuggggguuuuhhh! Unfortunately, at the time I couldn’t stop and dwell on that thought til later for that moment I had to continue dealing with this man for another 20 minutes.

The Holy Spirit was referring to this…… The following week I thought it was going to be a productive week and it turned into no school, sick family and snowed in the house. I was not happy and I took it out on my husband who was sick with the flu. I let my frustrations and generational iniquities get in the way of me nurturing him. This was a test that I failed at miserably and for some reason I couldn’t easily make up for it either. I was forced to recognize where the lack of compassion is coming from and to deal with it once and for all.

I realized the Lord strategically put 3 friends and my husband in my life for a reason. He needed them to pull something out of me and all of them are very high responders or contemplators

 
Responder and Contemplaator are 2 of 7 life languages from the Kendall’s Life language book http://www.lifelanguages.com/

Yes, I know they all learned something from me but when I die I don’t want them to say how I was always on time and was an organized planner. That would be a terrible.

Pastor Mike Hayes has spoken about “The right Place, the right People, and the right Plan………. In so many ways this message spoke to me about why God puts us where he does and people around us at certain times of our lives this all to carry out His ultimate purpose (plan).

 

I know God will give me another opportunity to pass this test. Please pray that I will pass all the tests not just this one test.
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Aug 23, 2011 - Daily Devotional    No Comments

Week 10 Day 2- Preperation

 

Preparation- the action or process of making something ready for use or service or of getting ready for some occasion, test, or duty

Planning is one of my strongest attributes. When we started the 12 weeks I always let you know about the distractions, the holidays, the sporting events, the parties you name it. If you look back through the 12 weeks life happened and no matter how much you plan you still have to make choices.

I hope you will see that after MommyStrong you will analyze your priorities of health differently. There will always be sporting events, holidays, and parties. How are you going to live that balance life so you don’t gain everything you lost (not just weight).

What are you going to do about your prayer life? For example 5 days a week you got devotionals, 3 x a week you were prayed over in class and in my off times I prayed for you individually. What good habits will you take with you after the program is finished so that you can achieve that balanced life. What is your next exercise program? What is your next level of wellness you need to focus on? How and what relationships need to be worked on? You need to be proactive about what is next in you life after this program is done.

This program isn’t for someone to come in and just to lose a lot of weight (which does happen) but really this program is to teach you how to approach and plan out body, mind, soul and spirit for the rest of your life…..this is a transformation.
 
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Aug 22, 2011 - Daily Devotional    No Comments

Week 10 Day 1- Whos Watching You

 

Week 10 Day 1- Who’s Watching You

There’s nothing more humbling to a parent when your kids ask you why they have to act or be a certain way that is pleasing to God but you don’t. If your kids haven’t said anything to you but you still address your kids to be obedient to your request/rule then you turn around and break/bend your own rule for your benefit. What message are you giving your kids?

Here’s some Examples:

Kids will lie about something small like cleaning there room and you turn around to tell someone a small lie.
Kids also like to manipulate you into getting what they want and in turn you manipulate your spouse/boyfriend to get what you want.
Wondering why they get snappy or mouthy and then you lose it with them over something small.

One day my son Xavier lied to me about brushing his teeth before me taking him to school. He actually went upstairs and sat outside his bathroom for 2 minutes acting like he did. I found out while I was taking him to school when he smiled and I saw a big chuck of toast was in his teeth…..duh, so then I said “you didn’t brush your teeth did you I don’t understand”. Xavier responded “how did you know’” and I went into this whole spiritual conversation that God sees everything and you will eventually get caught. I said “Never leave the house without brushing your teeth”.

His response after that was “Mom did you brush your teeth?” and my answer was “No” and even though I knew I was coming back home I realized that I couldn’t retract what I had made explicit to him.

I know this is a small lesson but I rather it be on a small scale instead of large one.

Your kids should look up to you and not think you are a hypocrite even with the small stuff. Are you being a good example?

If you don’t have kids or kids, there are employees, students ect… then who is watching you!

 
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Aug 19, 2011 - Daily Devotional    No Comments

Week 9 Day 5- Soul Ties

Week 9 Day 5- Soul Ties
 
Soul Ties- Is when the emotions, the mind and the will of the person becomes entangled to the point where their thoughts are no longer their own.
 
The clinical psychologist and the medical community recognizes this basic issue in several different ways, one of which is a condition they have labeled “codependency.” (Brian Holmes, The Ties that Bind)
 
This book I mentioned above by Brian Holmes changed another aspect of my thinking after reading. After studying years of Spiritual rooted diseases, I have often thought there was a missing piece. Why do I find myself ending up back into the same situations.  Soul ties allow us to succeed to a certain point in our life, but never being beyond certain point- ever
 
Do you ever wonder why you get stuck in the same situation, just a different day? Could it be a soul tie from the current or past relationship. Soul ties can be from anything from past sexual relationships, ungodly relationships with parents,a church, our a tie with you job, tied to finances with another person (parents, friends, coworkers).  Do you realize that some of you might not have healthy relationships with people now because of prior relationships that you thought were long cut off.
 
It’s like a bungee cord tied to you and someone else where you are trying to run up this hill of life and you can see the goal the prize. Just as you are about to grab it the bungee cord is tied to someone else who is trying to do the same thing the opposite way. So the result is right when you reach your goal you get forced all the way back, and it becomes a continually cycle that you have to break. The other example Mr. Holmes gives is you are like a power strip for plugs and every person, job, or even church entity is plugged into your power strip sucking the energy from you to the point you have very little or nothing to move forward on. Results in nothing for the current relationships that are suppose to be healthy.
 
 
I understood, from my old pastor, who taught me about sexual soul ties with past relationships, and how to release me from them.  I realize sexual ties are just 1 of many I was tied too. For instance, the Lord showed me recently I had a soul tie with finances based upon the people around me and their finances. If they aren’t in order, making bad money decisions, then you can be tied to that and do the same. The Lord literally showed me birds of a feather flock together is true in many ways. Sometimes you have to step back and realize there might just be a soul tie there and have to break.
 
Talking about the frustrations of your husbands with your girlfriends. I had a friend that every time her and her husband got into a fight and she vented it to me, then within 3 days Kris and I would get into a fight then I would vent my frustrations to her. When the Lord showed me this, and like the instance above with money, I had a choice. I could continue to hear her vent and vice versa to feed my desire to vent, or break the yo yo affect going on for good. This was NOT easy, but I don’t want to be in the same situation or worse again, so I choose to be obedient this go around and removed myself from that.
 
I truly recommend get the book the Ties that Bind, or search for the local 6 weeks class to make sure you have every area checked.
 
3John 2
2 Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.
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Aug 18, 2011 - Daily Devotional    No Comments

Week 9 Day 4-Bondage

 Week 9 Day 4- Bondage
 
Bondage-a state of being bound usually by compulsion, a slave to
 
 
A slave to???? How many of you feel this way about your life,marriage, relationships,your job, even your kids?
 
All of us have to submit to an authority outside of God, whether it be our spouse, a boss, a church leader,ect.. but when you feel like a slave to something there is no Joy.
 
Where is the joy. For the longest time (even now sometimes) I never understood the true meaning of having Joy in what you do.
Psalm 19:8
The commandments of the Lord are right,bringing joy to the heart.The commands of the Lord are clear,giving insight for living.
 
The enemy comes to steal , kill, and destroy the blessings of Joy, happiness, true love with depression, addictions, bitterness, and leaving people in a hamster wheel going nowhere.
 
God doesn’t want you stuck here, but he has to have something to work with. Cry out to God, he is faithful to intervene on your behalf
 
Isaiah 10:27
In that day the Lord will end the bondage of his people.He will break the yoke of slavery and lift it from their shoulders.
 
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Aug 17, 2011 - Daily Devotional    No Comments

Week 9 Day 3- Addictions pt 2

 

Week 9 Day 3 – Addictions Part 2

Now we know that all addictions are rooted in the need to be loved. Depending on the addiction it is normally coupled with other things.

Weight Problems- are coupled with lack of self-esteem and insecurity all with the need to be loved

You see the mouth is a place for love and security. The mouth and whatever you put in it is designed to try to give you emotional security.

Anorexia and Bulimia- Have the same profile but a different manifestation.

Shoplifting or stealing (Kleptomania)

Over Exercising

All of the above are actions from people who need to be loved. Most women base their view on our Heavenly Father on how they look at their earthly father. You can’t look at your earthly father because he is human he will lack in all the areas God the Father will complete. This is why communion with God is so important and He is the only one that can fill the void you are missing in your life and He is the only one that can deliver you in the name of Jesus.

As little girls we looked to be affirmed by our Fathers and nurtured by our mothers (a healthy balance way). When this doesn’t happen then the need to find love becomes so great.

If you dont have a relationship with your Father in Heaven, then most people will go looking for love in all the wrong places. I did in,  sex, drugs, alcohol, food….ect one addiction after another in my life and it wasn’t until I received the Father’s Love until I stop jumping from addictions. I found the the love void I had been missing all my life and then I became free.

You must be diligent to solve love, security, and  self-esteem issues now. You don’t just  wanna fall into another addiction. I had a client that went through my class who had a love and insecurity issue.. She did extremely well in my class but she never dealt with her issues so she is now addicted to exercise. I also had another client the opposite she came to the class and did extremely well but gain everything she had lost and then some back.

This is why I emphasize the importance of the spiritual issues for people like the ladies above. I feel like I have done a disservice to people if they lose the weight but don’t get the love from the Father. “Seek ye the Kingdom first” This scripture has never been so profound to me until know

Meaning get right with God, be hot, not cold or lukewarm seek His purpose and will for your life and see what he says about you (his child ) find the Father’s Love. Feel good about yourself and be free!!

 
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Aug 16, 2011 - Daily Devotional    No Comments

Testimony for Janet G

 

My Search for Significance
Aug 2011
 
 
Addictions, bad habits, hang ups, and strongholds plagued the young-adult years of my life. One bad decision after the other, I continued to search for my significance, purpose and value through my bank account, my boyfriend and my career. I had a strong foundation from my childhood. I had the knowledge but there was no practical application in my life. I knew what was right but I was living life by my own moral code justifying every decision. On the outside, I was the girl that had it altogether. But you know what they say, “If you aren’t humble yet, you are about to be!” and  ”Pride comes before the fall.” Let’s just say that I have had enough humble pie. Thank God for new taste buds!
 
I did just enough to get by and ease my guilty conscience. Went to church “just enough”. Tithed “just enough”. Prayed “just enough”. Most would call this “Going through the Motions” but was my tree bearing any fruit? No, it was STARVING. I conformed to the world. I was addicted to and sought comfort and pleasure in climbing the corporate ladder, counting the money in my bank account, drinking/partying, sexual relationships, buying what I wanted when I wanted it. I was blazing my own trails all the while thinking I’d be the statistic anomaly that would make it work MY way. Do you know where that led me? Divorced, in debt, broken, and just rather unhappy with myself. (The wages of sin is death <Divorce, Disease, Depression, Addiction, etc> but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Romans 6:23)
 
As a girl that has always struggled with pride and people-pleasing, needless to say, I was rather embarrassed by the outcome of my bad decisions. I had conformed to the world and there was just no real difference in me, someone who claimed to be a Christian (Christ-Follower) and the rest of the world. (Romans 12:2. Do not conform to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind….) When I finally took a BIG GULP, swallowed my pride, admitted that I wasn’t perfect, sought help/healing/counseling, and made the decision to give it all to Jesus, I felt FREE for the 1st time in my life. I felt redeemed, forgiven and lighter than I’d ever felt before. (Isaiah 53:5. But He was pierced for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on Him, and by His wounds we are HEALED.)
Do I still struggle? Yes. Will I always struggle? Yes. We are all sinners. (Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.)  BUT I rest in knowing Who set me free, Who holds my purpose in His hands, Who has already overcome for me.”I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33. I know Who to turn to when I face a difficult decision. I find comfort and rest in my Almighty God. He was there every step of the way, waiting patiently for me to turn to Him. (Hebrews 13:5, Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”
 
My scars are reminders of my trips off the beaten path. They remind me of my weakness, my fragility and pride. I am not proud of them but I am thankful for God’s grace and mercy. God will use all of our tattered fabric and turn it into a beautiful tapestry. He will take all the thorns and turn them into a crown. He will use it for His glory. I share my story with you so that you may find and experience the kind of freedom that I feel today. I want my life and everything that I do to glorify Him. 1 Peter 1:3-9 sums it all up!!!
 
3Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy he has given us NEW BIRTH into a living HOPE through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, 4 and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade. This inheritance is kept in heaven for you, 5 who through faith are shielded by God’s POWER until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time. 6 In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 7 These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. 8 Though you have not seen Him, you love Him; and even though you do not see Him now, you believe in Him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, 9 for you are receiving the end result of your faith, the salvation of your souls.”
 
4HisGlory, Janet G. 
 
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Aug 15, 2011 - Daily Devotional    No Comments

Week 9 Day 1 Addiction-

 

Week 9 Day 1 Addiction-

 
Addiction- compulsive need for
In life there are different types of stressors that arise daily which sometimes we are unable to handle which leads us into hopelessness and despair. Addiction is developed by continually attempting to soothe or comfort yourself rather than to resolve the source of your pain or stress. If you chose not to stop a behavior by simply laying it down you may have an addiction and it doesn’t matter what it is. Addiction can be pornography, using drugs, over eating food,exercising, involved in gossip and watching too much television. It can be an ungodly relationship and many people are in a relationship with someone not because they are best friends, but because they have a need to be filled. Almost anything you can think of can be an addiction. The enemy’s kingdom uses many mechanisms and knows how to control you with your needs. Addictions affect every nation, race, culture and any economic status.

Matthew 22:37-39 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

Addictions are rooted in the need to be loved. When you stand complete in the gospel by accepting God’s love and receiving the love you need for yourself. You need to accept who you are in the new birth once and for all. To love God, love yourself and love others is to be complete in that love and you will never need to find love in any form of addiction. The enemy knows that if he can get you to believe that you are not loved by God and that you do not love /like yourself is the lie that leads us into addiction. As an unloved person you will be unsure about friend(s) and then the enemy can get you to start looking outside for a “fix.”

When you don’t love yourself and don’t accept who you are the first thing that happens in your body chemistry is a dip in your serotonin levels. When you have a serotonin deficiency spiritually and physically you don’t feel right. The enemy knows there is no way you can increase your serotonin level unless you take a drug because you have a chemical imbalance. The pharmacist knows you can take a drug that has a serotonin enhancer to make you feel good, but then you become addicted to the drug which serves to create a chemically altered state of consciousness or false peace. Your enemy caused the problem without your realization or consent. He will begin to engineer thoughts to ensure you will take steps to enter into the various areas of counterfeit fulfillment. If you take your peace with God, yourself and others, the hypothalamus will recognize your fulfillment and signal the brain stem to release and increase serotonin values. This causes your spirit and your body to come into balance again so you feel more complete. Addictions are found in people that are separated from love. When someone is struggling with any type of addiction, that person has been spiritually bewitched away from the simplicity of the gospel, which is love. (Henry Wright, “A More Excellent Way”)

 
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Aug 12, 2011 - Daily Devotional    No Comments

Week 8 Day 5- Communion pt 2

 
 Week 9 Day 1- Communion part 2

If we come to a Communion service and partake in the cup and the bread, but we deny that healing and deliverance as a part of the atonement today, then we eliminate the provision for God has on our lives as human beings apart from salvation and eternal life in that day. For that reason we eliminate the broken body but celebrate it and do not believe in it, we should not partake . For this main reason many are filled with disease and insanity today, because we have said in our hearts that healing passed away over 2,000 years ago; yet we still participate in the sacrament of communion, which represents the reality of today. If you do not believe it, you do not have to worry about it, but be careful– ignorance is a form of knowledge and so is unbelief. (A More Excellent Way, Henry Wright)

You can not recognize the blood and forget about the broken body and what that represents to us.

Corinthians 11:29:31
29 For those who eat and drink without discerning the body of Christ eat and drink judgment on themselves. 30 That is why many among you are weak and sick, and a number of you have fallen asleep. 31 But if we were more discerning with regard to ourselves, we would not come under such judgment.


When you do communion and you are accepting what Jesus did and His forgiveness but you are holding onto unforgiveness towards someone else, then you bring sickness unto you which is very serious. I don’t care how embarrassed you may feel at a service by not taking communion with others, but it’s not worth the reprecussion that comes back to you.
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